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 As it's now the last day of 2025, it's time for....

The Top Ten Things Of 2025

There were other things that occurred this year that didn't make the Top Ten list.  Things like weird weather (sub zero temps in January, Autumn temps and conditions in August); renewing my passport and getting it back in the mail in only 3 weeks!; reading the new Dragonlance Books and re-reading the old ones from 40 years ago; anxiety, depression and apathy at various times throughout the years; stomach issues (nausea, diarrhea, cramps) which I'm attributing to the Ozempic, happening at various times during the year; binging the first 17 seasons of Law & Order and binging all 8 seasons of Bewitched.  Things like those.  But onto the top ten list.... 

10. Mom Fell

Earlier this year, on a Sunday, I got a call from mom that she fell out at one of the buildings in the retirement village she lives in.  I hurried my way there and got her, she seemed okay except for her shoulder and said I needed to take her to the hospital.  The end result was that she was fine, except for a bruised shoulder and arm where she landed.   They gave her a sling and some pain killers and sent her home.    Thankfully, that's all it was.  (that's a generic pic by the way, not mom or what happened.)

9. Retina Study Ends

Back in 2021 I was sent to the Retina Specialist and they told me I had a retina edema and I was a perfect candidate for a study they were conducting.  So, I got a port put in my right eye and it got refilled every six months as part of the study, which I still had to get a shot in my left eye every month. 

Well after 4 years, they told me study was over.  Once the study ended however the company running he study would no longer pay for anything.   So while over the last four years I had everything done for free now I'd have to pay.  And the FDA had approved the port, so that was all good, but since it was new my insurance said they would not cover treatments for the port.  So it's a shot in both eyeballs now, which insurance will pay for, but there's a copay now.   So I suppose there's both good and bad news  for this result.

8. Deaths

This year had some deaths of people I knew, some more disturbing than others.   There was Puntabupeep Mikey.  There was Sis, the grandmother of a good friend of mine who, 37 years ago, I spent a LOT of time with at his grandparents house, especially on Sundays when she cooked dinner and the whole family was there to eat and play cards and stuff.   There was my mom's cousin Bonnie, who was her age and who had grown up with her.  Also, when I was a younger, they, their husbands and their kids would get together at each other's houses at least once a month.    There were other deaths, but these hit the closest and hardest.  Sadly, as I get older, there will be more of them.

7.  New Doors

When I bought the house the front and back doors (and upstairs balcony door) were all old and wood and drafty.  Finally, after all these years here, I decided to get them replaced.  The new doors are metal and have new door frames so they fit perfectly, no drafts.   They lock a lot easier and unlike the old ones, they have to BE locked, they don't automatically lock when I shut the door behind me, so no more accidentally locking myself out of the house.

6. Reconnecting with Borders' Friends!

I worked at Borders bookstore from 2000-2003, and not only was it the best job I've ever had but I met some amazing people.   The ParisPekings and Ghostie are all from Borders. I still keep in touch, online, with others.   Well this year, one of them, Candace contacted me about going to see Ken Burns give a speech in Gettysburg.  And we went and had a great time together.  Then another one, Kristen, saw me post about it online and since she lives in town, contacted me and we went to the Waynesburger, had a meal and caught up.  It was great fun, too!  I hope to keep in touch with them more this year. 

5. Tooth Issues

Once again, I've had a bunch of tooth issues: problems with a bridge, a big cavity between two teeth, part of a tooth cracked and I had a filling put in, which dropped out, and I had a replacement put in, which later fell out, so I decided to a crown put on it...which I'm still waiting to get put on.  So yeah, like every year, my teeth are crap. 

4. Colonoscopy(s)

So this year, it was time for my second colonoscopy.  After my prep in January I wasn't cleaned out enough so we had to reschedule.  At the reschedule in March, and after a TWO DAY fast and a different prep...I STILL wasn't cleaned out enough.  But after TWO enemas later, I was good to go.  However, one of my nurses said the problem may be that I'm on Ozempic.  So even though I went off it a week beforehand both times, the next time I have one, I'm gonna see if I can stop it for a month, so that i CAN get cleaned out properly.  But on the positive side, they found nothing, not even polyps like last time.  So that's all good.  In the end.  (ba-dum-DUM!)

3. Work Changes

So at work, there's been some changes.  A few people retired.  A few people left under....less than ideal circumstances.  And some 'linear' movements.  One of the other two people in my department decided she wanted to move to a different department.  Which is fine, good for her.  But what it did is open up that position in my department.  Which meant that now, in my last couple years here, I'd have to retrain a new person, and wait for them to hire a new one, and while I waited for that to happen, two of us would have to do that work of three people.   How horrible.  But luckily, there was a guy in another department who had experience in the things MY department does, and he took the open position.  SO I didn't have to totally retrain him, as he already knew quite a few things.  And he's been working out very well. Thankfully. 

2. tRump Clown Circus

I refuse to spend a lot time on these deplorables, but the damage they've done to this country, and in fact the world, will last for years for not decades.  And who knows how long it will take to correct once we've finally rid ourselves of them.  America has a very BIG reckoning coming to it, and I don't believe it will be pretty.  And it WILL get worse before it gets better here.  Sadly.

1. Cedrik

 

Of course he's number one.  He made my year, and changed my life.  He's the first man I dated that I introduced to mom as my boyfriend.  He's the first man I introduced to my closest cousin and her son.  We spent most weekends together.  And then, well then it became clear it wasn't going to work. At least now.  So we split.  But that doesn't change how I (and I assume he) feel.  And maybe sometime in the future we can make it work.  But regardless, he's had the biggest impact on my year. 

POLT

 So, today I have a post that I never wanted to post, but, well....here we are.

Last Thurday, April 24, 2025, Cedrik and I split up. 

It was a mutual thing, we both agreed that right now, it's not working for us.  We still love each other (I DO love him still and I believe him when he says he loves me still as well), but it's just not going to work now.  Hopefully, at some point in the future it will, but for now, we're not together. 

I really don't want to go into any more than that.  But since I mentioned him so much on here I wanted to explain why his name suddenly disappeared from the Palace. 

POLT

 So....this weekend. 

After work, I picked up Cedrik.  Didn't have to wait, it was great, as it always should be.  We decided to go get something to eat right away, he suggested Burger King, so there we went.  Actually got a pic of him wearing the paper crown.  He got one of me holding up a ketchup covered french fry.  Seems a fair comparison.

We came home and almost immediately had some great bedtimesexxyfun.  Following this (and a bit of cuddling and chatting) he wanted to take a bath and do some of his footcare.  And he did, while I came downstairs and read my book and got online.  When he was finished and came downstairs, we did some dishes (he washing, me drying) and cuddled on the sofa while watching a miniseries documentary The Americas.  That was quite nice to do that together, as a couple.   And we both got tired about the same time and went to bed together, chatted a bit and cuddled.

A terrible, but thankfully quick, thunderstorm passed through. We were chatting quietly and all of a sudden it sounded like a train was passing the house!  Teh window were being battered by the wind, then with rain, then there was the lightning.  The power went out, but a few seconds later came back up, and that's all the problem we had with that.  Other people I've heard are still without power.  Wal-Mart and a grocery store had to closed as they lost all power.  Trees were down everywhere.  The only thing I discovered wrong around the house was, the wind had blown by wrought iron patio table and chairs across the front porch and against the railing dividing mine and the neighbor's porch next door!  Crazy strong wind.

Sunday, we got up and got breakfast from Rutters (and I my coffee).  We hung out for a bit, doing nothing important, just chatting.  (We both had some gastrointestinal issues involving the toilet, separately thank God, that I'll not go into here.  But it made for a somewhat shitty day).   Eventually, we went to the cemetery and I put the hard boiled egg on pap's grave, as I do every year.  I also said a few words to him, grandma and my cousin infant daughter who's buried there too.  And, Cedrik came with me the graveside.  I "introduced" all three of them to him.  We held hands and I teared up a bit.  

Following this, we went out to mom's retirement village. I showed him around a recreation area there (where also the residents have their garden plots) while he smoked a cigarette.  Then we went to mom's.  

There, as every year, I had an Easter basket with the card, painted egg, and some sugar free candy.  And as expected, she also had a card, and egg and a chocolate bunny for Cedrik.  She's such a sweetheart.  Then we ate Easter lunch: ham, sweet potatoes, green beans and rolls.  Cherry pie for dessert.  And leftover to bring home.  As always, great food from her. 

Cedrik and I returned home.  We sat on the front porch and chatted some more (with the furniture put back where they are supposed to be).  We had talked of taking a walk, but he said he wasn't feeling terribly well, a bit nauseous.   So he laid on the sofa and took a nap, while I read my book and watched over him.  

After he woke up, we decided to get Chinese takeout (he was no longer nauseous), and so we did.    Brought it back and ate it.  Then we watched more of The Americas.  After a bit of that, at the end of one episode, I was feeling quite tired, but of course after his nap, he wasn't.  So I went to bed and told him to come up when he was tired.  At some point, he woke me up a bit coming into the bedroom, but he got in bed, and both of us were soon asleep. 

Now I woke up this morning at the normal time, but of course, he was still sleeping.  So I got us breakfast and coffee from Rutters and came back here to eat mine.  I was waiting to give him more sleep before waking him up for the day.  But he woke up himself, over a phone call from one of his friends here in town.  I'm not going into that, it's no relevant to air those issues.  But he left for a bit to go to his friends house.  And when he returned, he was not feeling well (well he wasn't when he woke up, but it was worse now dealing with everything that was going on) and asked if I could take him back home. 

Of course I did.  We had tentatively planned to eat at Montezuma's today for lunch, but he was back before lunch.  So since I had worked up an appetite for some Mexican, I just went there myself and had lunch there while reading my book.  Following that I came home watch the rest of the Americas and started a new documentary series  And now I'm just waiting to get tired before going to bed and starting the new week. 

POLT

 So.....

My weekend.  After work Saturday I was too pick up Cedrik.  However, it took him a freaking HOUR to get to me. This sadly is not an uncommon occurrences (well, the hour late is, but not having to wait on him).  And while we discussed it a bit at the time, really we just shoved it under the rug and went on.

He was supposed to cook us dinner, or choose a restaurant for us to eat at.  And he wanted to cook, but didn't feel like it, so he was going to think of someplace he wanted to eat at.  But we came home so I could change out of my workclothes....and of course this led to some bedtimesexxyfun.  Once recovered, we went to Cafe del Sol for the second time.  Good food as always, great company.  Then we came home, both of us were tired, so we went to bed and to sleep.

Sunday morning, before getting up, we had more bedtimesexxyfun.  Then I got showered and went to Rutters for coffee/breakfast.  When I got home, Cedrik had come down and was having his usual breakfast of Fruity Pebbles.  He then got showered up and dressed.  I dressed while he showered.  I put on khakis, a buttomup long sleeved shirt and even a freakin' tie!  And then we headed out...to church.  

Yes, I said CHURCH!

One of Cedrik's friends and her boyfriend go to the church regularly, and she invited Cedrik along.  When he said he usually spends Sunday at his boyfriend's place, she invited both of us. And we said we'd go.

I'd never been to the church, so I looked them up online.  And i said it was a Southern Baptist denomination, which threw up a whole HOST of red flags.  And the church I grew up was not as Right-Wing, evangelical as the Southern Baptist, but things there were very formal, and staid, and judgmental, and that contributed to my leaving. 

So I waw not expecting too much out of it.  However, when we got there, it was like the opposite of what expected!  They had a band on stage of 4 guitars and a drummer.  While we were waiting for the service to start, like 6 people, including the pastor came over, shook our hands and welcomed us.  And at least two people did after the service.  And it was an opening, fun, interesting time.  I even paid attention to the sermon and had no problems staying awake.  And the entire service took less than an hour!  I did have fun.  And I would go again, if Cedrik and I want to get up another Sunday morning and go.

After the service, Cedrik and I went to KFC for lunch, and then returned home here.  I started some laundry (doing a total of three loads, that Cedirk folded because he enjoys folding clothes.) and we decided to take a walk.   As we started out, Cedrik started telling me something I was doing that was "pushing him away".  I listened to him and then told him all about something he's going that was "pushing me away" (the lack of concern about his punctuality).  And we argued (although civilly I'd say) for a good chunk of the walk.  He then noticed a bench put out by a local business and suggested we sit there.  And we did and talked more, more calmly and reasonably.  And I thought we had worked through a good portion of our mutual issues.  

Cedrik has a friend here in town he's known for years.   When we started home, he said he wanted to go visit him, just to get a different opinion on things, which sounded reasonable to me. So I walked him close to Carlos' house and then came back here myself.  

While I waited for Cedrik to return I finally started watching The Godfather. Yeah, I know, I am way behind the times.  I got about halfway through it when Cedrik returned.   He had a great talk with Carlos and we had both calmed down and stood in the Kithcen and basically made up and gotten things resolved.  Then, as he had requested, he washed the dishes I had.   I HATE doing dishes, that's why I'm GLAD I have a dishwasher now.   So when he asked to do the dishes earlier, I told him I was just gonna sit in the living room and let him go to town.  However, when it came time, and despite the hate I have for dishes, I agreed to dry them.  The best part was, we got to stand there and talk and chat and spend time together while doing the dishes. 

After this we FINALLY played that game of chest we had been talking about playing.  He said he was going to "kick my ass in chess", and while he DID win, it was close and not an ass kissing, so there is that.   After this, we were tired, so we went to bed. 

Monday morning, we awoke and played a bit, but there was no bedtimesexxyfun.  Not at that point. I went to Rutters and got coffee and breakfast. I ate before he even made it downstairs and did a lot of reading of my book.  He came down and ate and then went back upstairs to shower.  After his showering, he brought some of his stuff downstairs....while wearing only his underwear.  Naturally, this lead to another full round of bedtimesexxyfun...in my bed...that he had made beforehand.  

Making the bed, doing dishes, folding clothes, he can cook...he makes such a good lil housewife. :)

After this, we went to Wal-Mart to get something, and then McDonald's for a late lunch.  And then home, where we Nair-ed his head (yeah, he likes his head bald.  And despite my obvious love for hairthings a hot and sexy bald Black man is pretty damn sexy too...hence Cedrik).  And with that being done he set about organizing his backpacks, and bags and other things he has here: getting rid of things he doesn't really need and putting things in places more economically.  This took a while, but honestly, not as long as I thought.  And it was s job well done. 

And so after this, I took him home, and came back here and updated this.  

Despite the argument, I'd have to say this was a wonderful weekend, I quite enjoyed it, talking with Cedrik, and discovering the new surprisingly fun and interesting church and all that.

POLT

 So, this past weekend...

After work Saturday, I picked up Cedrik and we went to my friend Michelle's.  There, he and I used her LARGE, two headed shower to shower up and then the three of us headed out for supper and then to a local high school where we watched the play (as Michelle and I did pretty much every year until COVID hit).  Afterwards, and after dropping Michelle off back at her place, Cedrik and I came back to my place.  

We laid in bed, cuddled, talked, had some bedtimesexxyfun and then went to sleep.  Getting up Sunday morning, we had breakfast from Rutters and hung out a bit and then, without even showering, we threw on other clothes and headed to Chambersburg to have lunch at Rosalies!  It was SO MUCH food, we both of us left with leftovers!  We stopped by Target and 5 Below, Dollar Store and Goodwill and then came home.

Once here, we did some laundry, had leftovers, cuddled on the sofa a bit. We showered (separately) and later in the I went to bed.  He had his aunt pick him up on the way home from work.  We had had a disagreement, and that was the main reason, but also, I had been stressed all weekend about what as happening Monday and Tuesday too.  And it was better for him to already be home before those days arrived. 

Monday morning, I got up early (ugh), got my coffee and breakfast from Rutters and the waited.  About 8am, three people showed up to replace my doors.  Since I've owned the house (for 15.5 years) I've had ill-fitting, drafty, ancient doors.  And I finally got the front door, back door and balcony door removed, as well as storm doors on the front and back doors.  It took them two days to get everything done, but man they look good.  And I don't detect any drafts either!  So, yay for that!

Wednesday morning I had to go to work, but not FOR work.  I had training.  Like every year, it wasn't very interesting, but that wasn't the fault of the instructors, it was the subject matter.  After that, I stopped on the way home to get my Alegra-D from Wal-Greens and the got some supplies at the grocery store.   Coming home, I just hung out here doing pretty much nothing.  I did stumble upon, on Roku, The Scarecrow and Mrs. King tv series from the early 70s.  I watched an episode or two. I liked it back when it aired.  It seemed a bit cheesy now, and I'm sure it was then, but it didn't seem so back in the day. 

So I went to bed early cause I had to get up early again on Thursday, and again, not for work.  I had a retina appointment to get a shot in my eyeball.  Fun day that.  The shot itself was totally painless I had no idea he actually gave it to me.  But there was a LONG wait before hand, and that was irritating. 

Afterwards, Mom took me to Sheetz for my donut and coffee (where I ran into a surprise visit from an ex-client at work...good to know he's doing well), we mailed some bills I had, stopped by Liberty to get my tax packet, and then came back to the house.  She checked out the new doors (liked them), took the some things back she had loaned me and then left.  The rest of the day I just relaxed around the house.

And then today I had to get up to get ready for work.  Ugh.  

So this was my past weekend (if weekends run from Saturdays through Thursdays).

POLT

 SO how was your weekend, Polt?  Thanks for asking. 

Saturday at work wasn't too bad, not terribly busy, but busy enough so I didn't get bored.  Afterwards, I picked up Cedrik and we came back here.  On the way, we stopped at Food Lion to get stuff to make tacos, which he was going to make 'in true Texas fashion' cause, ya know, he's from El Paso.  

When we got back to the house, I believe the first thing was some bedtimesexxyfun.  Following this, we showered, and after that, he was (and me too) pretty relaxed and didn't feel like cooking.  So we ordered pizza, and I put a load of laundry in the washer.   After eating the pizza, we cuddled on the sofa and watched some TV until the laundry was done, and deciding to go to bed. 

Bedtime cuddles are THE BEST with Cedrik. 

So we got up a lil after 8 (and a bit more playing as I recall) and headed out to get groceries.    We got back, had our donuts, I had my coffee (which I got from Rutters on the way home) and then I read my book while he chatted with a local friend texting on his phone.  I got on my computer and he was pretty tired, and took a nap on the recliner (although he didn't put the footrestup).  He was sleeping like the dogs I had when younger, sprawled all over the chair.  And he then, while stretching, slid down the chair onto the floor, with his back against the chair and his arms in the air.  How he slept like that, I'll never know.  It was cute and funny tho.  Around noon he wanted to go visit his friend (since his friend lives with cats, and I'm very allergic to cats, I opted to stay home) and said he'd make us tacos. 

While he was gone, I did some more laundry (three loads in fact), watched a movie, had a shower, the other normal stuff.  When he got back, he did indeed make us the tacos which were freaking delicious!  Damn, the boy can cook!  After filling up on tacos (and Spanish rice) we again watched a bit of tv and then I went up to bed first, and he came up a bit later on.

In the morning, we had more bedtimesexxyfun and then I went to Rutters for coffee and a bit of breakfast.  Cedrik was still tired and stayed in bed sleeping for a lil bit.  I was on my computer putzing around.  When he finally came downstairs, we got presentable (ya know, put on some clothes) and went to Wal-Mart and Lowes to get some things and then, since KFC was right there, we had lunch there.  We came back to the house and hung out, eventually he Nair-ed his head bald again, showered, and we headed out for me to return him home.

I came back here and had a taco salad made of the leftovers from his taco stuff.  And then putzed around a bit on here and watching tv before going to bed (in a lil bit).  Oh, and also, we had fight, a verbal one, but out fights (there have been three I think) generally result in quick resolutions and reconciliation, and this one did too, and didn't ruin the weekend.   

So all's good.

POLT

 So, let's talk about this weekend. 

After work on Saturday, I picked up Cedrik and we came back here.  Since it had been a week, he and I almost immediately had some bedtimesexxyfun.  Following this and showering together, I made us pasta (regular sauce for me, alfredo sauce for him, since he has issues with tomato sauces), meatballs, and garlic bread.  And after this, we watched some TV and then went bed for some cuddles and sleep. 

Sometime around 2, I got up to use the bathroom and then went back to bed and could not get to sleep.  My mind NOT stop.  I kept thinking of all the shit that's coming down the pike, politically and otherwise, and how it fucking sucks that I actually finally a find a man I love who loves me back just when the world is going to hell.  I worried and worried and worried.  Finally, about 2:20 or so, I just went downstairs to the recliner.  Sometimes, when I like this, getting out of bed for a bit can help.  It kinda did this time. 

After a bit of time downstairs, i went back up, got into bed and immediately cuddled up against him.  And I did drift off.  But the rest of the night (er, morning), was kinda fitful when it came to sleep.

We got up in the morning, went for groceries and I stopped and got coffee from Rutters.  When we got back,  I drank my coffee we ate our donuts and we hung out a bit more on the sofa. We had made plans and later, in the early afternoon, after again, showering and getting ready, we headed out.  We drove 1.5 hours, roughly, towards Hershey PA-ish, to my cousin Tracy's house.  

I've already introduced mom to Cedrik, I decided to was time to introduce him to my favorite cousin Tracy.  I had called her the week before to make sure it was okay if we came to visit.  She was excited to "finally" meet someone I was dating.   She and her son Morgan (10 yrs old) would welcome me.  

Cedrik and I got there and were warmly welcomed by Tracy.  Morgan was a bit shy initially, but he warmed up to both of us (well, he's always been warm and open and talkative with me, but I think Cedrik initially threw him for a loop.  But he was fine).  That is until one of his friend rang the doorbell for him to play.  SO he put on some sneakers, and out he went. 

Cedrik and I were there a little over two hours and had a great time talking with Tracy.  And she was so welcoming and accepting of us both, which I just as I knew she'd be.  

When we left, getting onto the Turnpike, I stupidly made a wrong turn, going towards Philly instead of Pittsburgh when Pittsburgh is the way we should have been going.  So we have to to the next exit, which was almost double the distance we would have gone had I gone the correct way.  So, according to Cedrik's GPS, I added nearly two hours to the travels.  Wonderful.  At the time I was SO PISSED at myself for being so stupid.  But as time went on, and especially today when we talked about it, it became funny and we laughed about it.

Upon getting home (FINALLY) we watching some tv and hung out on the couch to relax.  then we went to bed, cuddled some and then had more relaxing bedtimesexxyfun (well, we were really relaxed AFTER the bedtimsexxyfun).  And then to sleep.

I woke up Monday a bit before him and woke him up with some more bedtimesexxyfun.  Following this, we went to Rutters, me for coffee, him for a breakfast burrito.  After this, he said he needed to go visit a friend of his here in town.  Cedrik had borrowed some money from him and wanted to go return it.  I had laundry to do, so off he went and I did laundry.   When he returned, he shocked me by mentioning a threeway with this guy he met. 

I wasn't shocked about the threeway, we had discussed his in general terms already.  But I was shocked by the suddenness of it all.  However, when he showed me the guy's profile online, it was a guy I had chatted with late last year but which petered out and went nowhere.  So we arranged for him to stop by and we had some menage a' trotimesexxyfun.  It was fun and a blast...been a while since I was in a threesome.

Following this, with the laundry done, I folded it and we showered (separately) and got ready and headed out.   Today was Mom's birthday and Howard was taking her to the Copper Kettle for Prime Rib.  He invited Cedrik and I because "you're family".  So we went, with me chauffeuring them there.  And we all got the Prime Rib and ohmiGOD it was SOOO delicious!  Cedrik not really one for steak, but even HE said how good it was and gobbled it all down.  

I tried to give Howard some money for Cedrik and my meals, but he refused.  And when they brought the desserts around, Howard said mom could have a pieced of cake, for her birthday, with four forks so we all could eat some.  Mom chose the orange dreamsicle cake, and when they brought it, the restaurant, on their own, put a lil candle on it and had it lit.  Howard and I sang mom happy birthday, quietly, because neither of us can sing.  Cedrik was out smoking.  When he returned, he still had his part of the cake there, but we told him him he missed singing to mom. (he had said at my house that since he had no gift for her, he could sing her happy birthday).  And so he DID sing it to her, much much better than Howard and I cause Cedrik is talented and has sung in choirs and musical theater back in high school ad college.    So following all this, I dropped mom and Howard off and then Cedrik and I drove to the car wash since Theo was dirty filthy (having not been washed since November).   

The original plan was for Cedrik to spend the night and then me to drop him off at home on my way to work. But he said, he'd really prefer to go back tonight, if I didn't care.  I was a bit disappointed, as I was looking forward to sleeping next to him again.  But it was fine.  I had had two night with him, and a wonderful weekend in total because of him, so yeah, I could take him back tonight.   We stopped by the house to pick up his stuff and I took him back.  Then I came back here, put he I Love Lucy channel on the Pluto Channel had the Ricardos and the Mertzs traipsing through Europe on in the background as I type this.

And that was my weekend.

POLT

 So let's talk about the weekend. 

I took Saturday off.    So after work on Friday, I picked up Cedrik, and off we went to West By God Virginia...but just barely.  Just across the Potomac to Shepardstown, where we ate at the Blue Moon Cafe,  A delicious meal was had by both of us.  And honestly since my appetite's not what it used to be (because of the Ozempic), Ced ended up eating two of my six slices of quesadilla. 

Following this, on the drive home, he made clear to me that he wanted me to jump him, not only in the car right then, but even back at the restaurant.  Which he didn't really have to tell me, cause I could see it in his face while we were eating.   And I felt the same way.  Also, on the drive home, I tried to maintain the speed limit, with his help, as that's not an easy thing to do being a leadfoot that I am.   And I sang my fool head off too, which made him laugh, cause even though I can't sing, that doesn't mean I WILL NOT sing, ya know? 

We got home and went immediately to bed for some frankly awesome bedtimesexxyfun.   And then we went to sleep (sleeping with him is great, he's such a cuddlebunny....but I digress....)

The next morning, we got up a little later than usual, cause, ya know, we were tired and possibly worn out. We went to Rutters and got us some breakfast and then came home and enjoyed it.   Following this, for reasons I don't recall, he decided to give me an amateur pedicure.  Frankly, he did a great job, it was very relaxing.  And we got to chat more while doing so.   Afterward he wanted me to do his feet, and I tried, honestly, I did, but I couldn't do it as well as he had...he had done it before after all.  But honestly, he did most of his feet.  Then, after this, he dressed and left to visit a friend of his in town for alittle bit.  

While he was gone, I showered, I updated my checkbook and paid some bills, getting them ready to be mailed.  And I putzed around online for a bit.  When he returned he showered and got ready.  We both 'dressed up' bit.  I mean, nothing real fancy; collared shirts instead of tshirts, nice jackets instead of hoodies, etc.   We were going to Longhorn Steakhouse to eat and he wanted us a lil 'dressed up'. 

So off we went.  Getting there before 5 pm, we STILL had a 35 minute wait.  I hate waiting to eat, cause there is SO MANY restaurants to eat, but he said it wasn't too long.  And he had a giftcard he wanted to use.  So we waited. although we did go to a Michel's store and I bought some candles.  But we made it back before I was texted, telling us the reservation was ready. 

The meal was, as always delectable.  I got a steak and fries, he got chicken and ribs with fries.  And we both had big salads and bread.  I had trouble eating all of it, but I did.  He could only about half of his (which IS unusual as he ALWAYS eats do much.  Like he says, "I'm a fat boy in a skinny body").

After the meal we went to Ollies, and bought a few things, just wandered around really.   Then we headed out, for the second reason Cedrik wanted to 'dress up' a bit: we drove to mom's cottage so she (and Howard) could meet Cedrik and vice versa. 

We were there maybe 15 minutes, perhaps a bit longer.  But it seemed to go well.  We chatted (well mom and I did, like always.  Howard and Cedrik said a little, but it was mainly her and I).  When I introduced them, I did so as "Mom, this is Cedrik.  Cedrik, this is mom." he said, "Hi mom!" and leaned in for a hug.  And when we left, he hugger her again and said, "Bye mom."   He shook Howards hand and leaned in for a bro-hug and called him by name.  

I though it was all so cute.  I hope mom's okay with it, him hugging her and calling her mom.   I guess I'll find out tomorrow when she takes me to my retina appointment. 

We came back home and watched some TV, but were tired, so we went to bed, and had more bedtimesexxyfun.   Afterwards, he had this coughing fit (he's had a cough for a lil while, doctor said it  was a bacterial infection and put him on antibiotics.)  I've never seen him, or anyone, cough like that.  For like a half hour, he sat on the toilet, coughing up phlegm into toilet paper or the trash can.  And blowing his nose, did that so much he had a minor nose bleed.  But thankfully, after about a half hour, he calmed down and we went back to bed. 

And then, less than an hour later, I woke up with my guts roiling and feeling as if diarrhea was gonna be running out my ass right that moment.  I made it up to the toilet in time, but that was the first of three times, I made it to the toilet.  And oh my GOD it reeked.  I sprayed, but...well thank God Cedrik was in the bedroom asleep.

So anyway, after that, I didn't sleep well, cause after like 20 to 40 minutes of sleep, I would wake up cause I was afraid I'd start pooping again.   Not great night's sleep...but there was some cuddling with Cedrik, so that was okay. 

I got up and decided to pass on Rutters coffee with my stomach the way it was.  So I made a cup of tea and dry toast and after eating that my stomach felt better.  Cedrik had the leftover food from Saturday for and early lunch (he had actually gotten up about 5 am to use to bathroom and then decided to have a bowl of Fruity Pebbles, so that was his breakfast) and we chatted.  After this, he went up stairs because he wanted to Nair himself again.  Yep, he uses it on his head to make it bald and he uses it....elsewhere.  Nuff said.   I helped him clean it off, cause, ya know, he can't see the back of his head and all that.  And then he showered and packed up and I took him home. 

It was, we both agreed, a fantastic evening....despite the coughing fit and my roiling guts.  And we're both looking forward to doing it again. 

POLT

Vibe like that, karma is my boyfriend....

I've been hesitant to do this because I didn't want to jinx anything, but I think it's time.  

Everyone, meet Cedrik.

He and I met on New Year's Eve, and we've been hanging out ever since.  Well, more than hanging out.  Dating.  And actually, we've reached the point where we call each other boyfriend.  And yes, I DO feel like a pimply face Middle Schooler when I say that, but whatever.   There's worse feelings, yeah?

We've spent several very fun weekends together, and one or two evenings together after work.  A Local Celebrity, Mr. David ParisPeking has met him twice, during the Super Bowl and when we all went to a movie. 

And later tonight, after we eat, we're gonna stop by Mom's cottage on the way home and they're going to meet.  (mom has met at least guys I dated previously, but she didn't know we were dating.  This time, she does.  I checked to make sure she was okay with meeting and of course she was.)  So an introduction to mom...that should show you how important he is to me. 

So I'm really hoping posting about here does not jinx anything, but again, it seems like it was time. 

POLT