On a night like this Trick or treat, wo, wo...

So, tonight in my town is Trick Or Treat.

Yeah, dont ask me, I don't know why either.  But as long as I can remember, it's always been on the Thursday before Halloween.  Which is okay if Halloween falls on Friday, Saturday, or even Sunday.  And which ROCKS if Halloween is on Thursday.  but which totally SUCKS if Halloween is on a Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday.

I dont hand out candy.  I fear having six pieces of candy left and ten kids running towards my door.  So I just don't do it.  Dad LOVED handing out the candy.  He'd get the candy well ahead of time and talk to nearly every kid that came up for candy.  He just loved it.  Since he died, Mom's handed it out in his absence, maybe in honor of him.  She never seemed interested in doing it before.

That last couple years, my cousins has brought my lil cousins (her sons) by and I didn't have candy prepared for them.  Had to give them just crap i had laying around here.  So THIS year, I got prepared with two bags of candy and even bought a purple plastic pumpkin to house it in.  The pumpkin's been inside the door since mid-September when I got it.  In fact, both Travis and Kris raided it when they were here.

So about 15 minutes before it was due to start, I texted Jaime to see if she was bringing the boys, but she said they weren't coming, cause they had football practice.  *SIGH*  Figures.  The one time I was prepared they weren't coming.   But to my surprise, I heard my friend Amie talking to her girls as they walked across my porch.  They came to get some candy.  So it wasn't a total waste in getting it!  Guess I'll just have to eat all that left over chocolate myself.

Interesting tidbit: Earlier today, Don (who I hadn't seen in probably over a year) texted me, stopped by and we had some bedtimesexxyfun.  Last year, on Trick or Treat, after it was over, I hooked up with a guy I met on A4A.  In 2010, when Jaime brought the boys, Kris was here, we were watching a movie, although the bedtimesexxyfun happened later that night.  2009, I wasn't home for the Trick Or Treat, cause I was in Greencastle hooking up with someone.  2008, my friend Gar and his boyfriend at the time, Tory (see the label "T" in the sidebar) came over.  We got pizza watched a movie, and when Gar fell asleep during it, Tory and I fooled around a bit.  And then back in 2004, Jaime and only her oldest son (cause the youngest wasn't born yet) stopped by the apartment when my friend Charles was living with me for those three weeks, and we had bedstimesexxyfun that night before going to sleep.

Who knew one could get so many treats from so many tricks on the same night each year?

POLT

Forget about your ex he wasn't good...

Today I've got nothing to do, really, did some laundry, farting around online, walked (or more like swam considering the humidity) to mom's for a short bit, but basically, I'm bored. I mean there's only so much decongesting one man can do in a day, right? So i was on Facebook, trying to think of something exciting, and I thought, "Hey, I wonder if my ex (whom I'll call Mattie) is on Facebook?"

So I typed his name in and sure enough several profiles came up by his name. But as soon as I saw the one with HIS photo, I knew it was the right one. It's been over ten years since I even saw him last, but I thought what the hell, and sent a friend request. I kinda wondered what he was up to. And plus, the one photo of him I could see, he still looked pretty hot. And the only way I could check out his other photos was to friend him.

A few hours later, he accepted my friend request. I hurried clicked on his profile and went to the photos...and found out he was in a relationship with someone. Someone kinda cute too. And I almost immediately had pangs of jealousy. I don't know why though.

I mean, it's not as if I thought we'd get together again (well, maybe a 'for old time's dake hookup, yeah, but date again? Nope!). And it's not like I've known him at ALL these last ten years, so why wouldn't he be in a relationship. He's a good guy, a good lookin' guy, I should have figured he WOULD be.

Still....what a bummer. I don't know why, but it is. I think I'll follow the advice of Soliqueer on Twitter and just click off Facebook and listen to bouncy music. Bouncy music helps in ANY situation!

Actually, what I've really done is set up a Wednesday night hookup with my fuckbuddy Don after work. I say "Fuck Mattie and his cutenss and his cute new boyfriend! I'm gonna fuck Don until I can't even THINK the name Mattie anymore!"

Yeeee-haw!

POLT

Dream of winning fortune or fame...

Had Chinese tonight (Chinese FOOD, not Chinese man. Unfortunately. Although Don DID stop by for about two hours of 'slap and tickle'. But I digress...), and the following was my fortune:

Photographic memory!

Remember to put in film, or its

digital!?

What the HELL?!? I think I know what they meant, but really, whomever translated it into English is horrible job!

POLT

no date son, you gotta work late...

So tonight, my buddy Don stopped by. He's the guy I caught up with in January and we decided we'd try to date again. However, we didn't even talk to each other until earlier this week. And we both kinda decided that dating, right now, isn't gonna work. See his situation is awkward for me to deal with, so no dating. But sex...yeah, the sex was always incredible, and it was so tonight as well. It was the best two and half hours I've spent this week.

Also, at one point, his mom called. I didn't stop what I was doing, even while he was talking to her. I told him a story about how a few years ago, I was with Freddie when my friend Michelle called me. We talked for a bit, and then she asked why I was breathing heavy and I told her what we were doing. Oh, how we laughed.

So then, just a bit after telling him that, my phone rang and it was....MICHELLE! Oh the irony! And what's better is that she and I talked for a bit again, while Don kept doing what he was doing, until I told her again what was going on! Laughter ensued.

So, just keep in mind that if you call me, and I'm breathing a bit heavy...well, I dont like to jog or anything, so that wouldn't be the cause of it.

POLT

Dating, when i'm with them, it's only you i see...

Tonight, I had a date with Don.

We had dated (re: became friends with benefits) back in 2008 for a few months. There were issues, mainly that I had, and so it came to an end. Last month, Don emailed me and we got it set up so that we'd meet today, after work, at Borders to talk over coffee.

I got to Borders about 4:00 even though we said to meet there at 4:30. And as I waited and wandered around looking at books and such, I got SO nervous. Nervous, anxious, worried..and i don't have the slightest clue why. I was working myself up so that I was beginning to get a headache.

And then I saw him walk in, see me and smile. And I couldn't help but smile back, and the headache, tension and worry disappeared! Poof! Like magic.

We said hi and he put his hand out for a shake, but I was like, no, I pulled him into a quick hug, which he returned. And what was the first thing he said to me? "You've lost a LOT of weight, and damn, you look good." Aww... And the first thing I noticed about him? Damn did he smell good. I have no idea what the cologne was, but it was rocking!

I suggested we go to TGIFriday which was nearby, gets some appetizer to share and talk in a booth there, as there'd be a bit more privacy than in Borders. And so we did. And over the Friday's 3-For-All and sodas, we talked.

I first off thanked him for coming and agreeing to talk to me and then I apologized for the way I handeld the end of it, which really was my fault and cowardly. I handled it like a big prick. And told him so. He gracefully accepted the apology.

And then we had an awesomely easy and smooth conversation with no awkward pauses that I was worried about. he asked about the house, so I told him. In fact, I think I talked a LOT. It was such a relief to see how well everything was going I was talking fast and furious, like Sassy josh on a mix of speed AND cocaine.

We went over some of the issues we had previously, which were still in existance. I made sure he understood I wasn't terribly good at relationships and could be VERY selfish, both in a relationship and in general. He reminded me that I had told him that before (not that I remembered doing so) and that he was here talking with me anyway. He said we both had issues we'd have to deal with, but we could talk about them and maybe come to a resolution. And even if nothing else happened right away, he said that we connect on so many levels (which we do) that we can still be friends and enjoy things like movies, and comic books and shit until we get those issues resolved.

He said he was talking to a girlfriend, and she was mentioning her commitment-phobic boyfriend of six years, and then she asked if maybe I was Don's Jason (her boyfriend). He said he didn't know, but that wasn't going to stop him from seeing me again, and that that was something we could work on.

It was a thoroughly enjoying and dare I say it, magical evening, even though it was only about an hour and half long. And we made semi-defintely plans for him to come see the house next week and for us to talk some more. Here, where there's even more privacy. (at one point, he put his hands on top of mine while saying something, and afterwards, he looked over my shoulderand smiled and said we had an audience. A couple of ladies were watching. Pfft, whatever...)

And outside, as we went to leave he said, "I wanted to tell you this inside, and then I wasn't sure if I was going to or not, but now I will. I thought you were hot before. Now I see you're truly smoking." Corny, sure it was! But it made me blush and I squee-ed out loud inside my head.

So, I don't know where if anywhere this is going. As I said, we still have some of the same issues going on that we had back in 2008. But whatever, we'll take this wherever it takes us and see. And isn't that more than half the fun?

POLT Listening to "Alex Clinton" by The Replacements

"Don't be nervous." "If my heart rate were any slower, I'd be dead." - Brian, Queer As Folk

I'll never catch all the memories i'm chasing...

Okay, this one's gonna be kind of a catch-all for a bunch of little stuff I want to say, but not enough that they warrant their own post.

1. I've got a new poll posted over in the sidebar on the left. Vote away.

2. A commentor mentioned Don, and I thought I should answer it here in case anyone else is interested. Don and I have...drifted apart. It was kinda more so on my part. I never really felt comfortable with the whole situation, ya know, waiting for his partner to die so we could be together, even if his partner was fine with the whole deal. Just seemed a bit too morbid for me. And while the sex was great, Don was just a bit too...demanding. No, that's not the word. Well, I'll put it this way, several times I felt like saying, "Yes your ass is one of the best I've ever seen, and I DO love kissing you and cuddling, but geez, why not suck MY cock once in a while, eh?" Does that sum it up? That's the way he was, and I didn't see him changing, and I didn't want to do ALL the work, ya know? Although he WAS a great guy, and the sex...some of the best. But it just was not meant to be.

3. Read the latest Torchwood book in three days! Great read. And I LOVE Ianto on the cover with half his face clown-like (see photo in sidebar).

4. Speaking of books, this is rundown of the books I've read this year:

• History - 6
• Star Trek - 5
• Gay - 4
• Fantasy (D&D-esque) - 3
• Superheroes - 3
• Torchwood - 2
• Politics - 2
• General Sci-Fi - 2
• Other - 1

And yeah, this is pretty representative of my reading habits as a whole. (although I'd kinda expect there to be more politics)

5. My Toronto calendars (I ordered three of them) arrived today, and I skimmed quickly through the photos. Damn, I LOVE that city.

6. Was going to try to do laundry again today...and didn't. Instead, slept in, went to eat lunch with mom and grandma, went to grocery store and then Wal-Mart. Did get a lot of things done I needed to...but no laundry. And I got mom a REAL digital camera, to replace that plastic cheap-ass one I got her for Christmas. I was truly ashamed when we opend the box and looked at it. Truly shameful camera it was. Glad I got to get her a real one.

7. The Dallas Cowboys didn't even make the playoffs. *SIGH* Yeah, Detroit going 0-16 was pretty damn bad, but really it's Detroit, did anyone expect anything else? But Dallas...they SHOULD have done better. It's a disgrace.

I know there were other things that I've since forgotten. Oh well, I can always make another one of these posts if I need to.

POLT Listening to "Ready To Go" by Republica

Actually, I - this may sound a little West Texan to you, but I like it. When I'm talking about - when I'm talking about myself, and when he's talking about myself, all of us are talking about me. - George W. Bush

I was no dark knight, breaking men like ice...

So, last night I saw The Dark Knight. At 12:01 am.

It all started with the group meeting at TGIFridays at 10:00. It was me, Ag, A Local Celebrity Mr. David ParisPeking, Ghostie, Don, and his friend from California Mark.


Sorry, no icon for Mark.

We had a few drinks, some snacks, and a load of fun. I accurately predicted the ALCMDPP would order a side salad with honey mustard dressing (he's such a creature of habit). We dicussed the Road Trip to White Castle, and I discovered to my mortication that ALCMDPP had originally picked Ghostie first. I was his second choice. but then Ghostie called Mrs. ALCMDPP unattractive (sorta) so that all made up for it. The trip to baltimore to see Rent and our problems with Garmin on the return were discussed. My singing ability, or lack thereof, was discussed, and we realized Don (and Mark) were the only ones NOT to have heard me sing. We talked about Toronto. We talked about Rent coming to DC again, as well as a revival of West Side Story. Strangely, Ghostie sang with me some lyrics from that musical. Ghostie hates musicals. Even stranger, we found out the Ghosite would 'do' Bruce Willis. This, along with the musical-thing, forced us all to reevaluate our position on Ghostie's sexuality. We discussed the upcoming movie, as well as the upcoming Watchmen. We discussed the daughter of ALCMDPP and how two of the three pray for my soul and love me. more thatn ALCMDPP himself (or so I say). We discussed many other topics which i can't at this moment recall. But there was much laughter, drinking, eating, and talking.

And then we went to the movie. We got to the theater shortly at 11:00pm. Ghostie had already gotten the tickets for us, so we could go right in. Even so, we could get seats together. Ag and Mark volunteered to sit down in front. ALCMDPP and Ghostie sat together. And Don and I sat together further back. We saw three people done up in Joker makeup, which is the exact number ALCMDPP predicted previously. And finally the movie started.

They showed a Watchmen trailer, which gave me a woodie right there in the theater, just as it does whenever I view it here at home online. I can't WAIT for that movie. And one the lights went down, Don and I got very surreptiously touchy-feely with each other. Gotta love that.

BUT, the movie itself...okay, I've kept you in suspence long enough. My first thought on it is: I was LONG! But there was an incredible amount of stuff going on. Loved the character progression of Harvey Dent. Heath Ledger as The Joker was truly frightening, just as the character should be, not somewhat campy like Jack Nicholson. It was an outstanding movie, and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

having said all that, i don't like it lived up to my expectations. I don't know what I expected that didn't occur, but it just seemed there would be...more. Don't get wrong, as I said I LOVED it, but it still wasn't as good as I expected it to be.

Perhaps I am just whining, cause I can recall two different places when I actually gasped and clapped, along with several other people in the audience. There were surprises in it. And everthing was well paced and well written.

But one big reget? That there was no character in it that looked like this:


Other than that, and the small bit of unexpectation I felt, the movie was the best. And I'd highly recommend it.

POLT Listening to "Little Fluffy Clouds" by The Orb

It's time for those who talk about family values to start valuing families. - John Kerry, July 29, 2008

Watch a holiday parade with dancers and balloons...

So this morning, I managed to get myself up in time to go see the Memorial Day parade. It was about an hour long, and was...well, a parade in my small hometown. Nothing exciting, way too many fire trucks, but they did, as they do every Memorial Day, had a bus full of veterans from the nearby V.A. Hospital, most of them disabled or injured, hence why they're at the hospital in the first place. They waved flags out the bus windows. Everyone applauded them. That's probably the best moment of the entire parade, when they go by.

My cousin Cam was there as well, telling anyone that would listen that he was now three years old.

Later in the day, the whole family regathered at my mom's house and we had lunch. It consisted of meatballs, baked beans, a deli and cheese tray, potato and mac salad, chips, pickles, cheeses, and deserts of fruit salad and a vanilla, white icing cake with a layer of strawberries in the middle! Yummy! Following the meal, we all sat around and talked to each other while we digested the food.

When this was over, I came home and hung out for only a short while before Don arrived. We spent two and a half hours together. Alongwith the memories, and the afterglow, I have a few scratches on my back near my shoulder to commemorate the occasion. I didn't know he had longish nails until we were cuddling afterwards and i felt the scratches. Niether of us can remember when the acutally occured, but we both kinda think its a good thing, showing just how much...fun we had.

After he left I got a call from mom, she wanted me to come over and eat some more of the leftovers, so I went over for supper, having another sandwich and stuff. Then we sat and talked for about an hour and a half while we watched TV. I always feel like I should spend the evenings of holidays with her, this is the first Memorial Day she had without dad, so I wanted to do something a little bit with her when all the people had left and she was there alone. But she seems to be doing very good.

In addition to the scratches, I got a bit of sun on the back of my neck and on my face, but nothing major. Not a burn, just a slight reddening. Food, fun, family....and sex. All in all a very pleasant holiday!

But what kinda holiday would it be if I didn't have some photos to post?

This is Cam watching the parade from his Froggy Chair.


And this is Cam in his favorite place to be: With Pappy.


This is Cam and I in a self portrait.


This is a short video of Cam in his mom's arms giggling over her kisses.



And this is a short video of one of the groups in the parade. They're doing the Lindy Hop.

Personally, I'm diggin' the outfits, zoot suits rock!

POLT Listening to "Maneater" by Nelly Furtado Oil: 133.04 (+1.34); Gas: 3.88 (-)

He couldn't find a prayer in the Bible! - Whit Sterling, Out Of The Past

Again with love, it's gonna be a glorious day...

So today was just a FABulous day!

I managed to get up about 9:00, and for me on a Sunday that is WAY early. I was online for a bit, then showered and got dressed. I was going to mom's for lunch, but I decided since it was a beautiful day (70's, sunshining, not a cloud in the sky), that I'd take a walk. I needed to mail a bill, a condolance card, and teo Netflix movies. And instead of just walking directly to the Post Office, I took a route that ended up having me out walking for about 20 minutes. But it was truly a GLORIOUS day. I stopped and took a photo of the sky, and you can see just how beautiful it was.



I dropped the stuff off at the Post Office and then went to mom's. She called on her way back from church and asked if I wanted Chinese. So she stopped and got some and we had that for lunch. Afterwards, she went outside to plant some flowers she had, and I laid on the couch and finished up the book I was reading. Angel laid on me while I did so. And upon finishing the book, with a full tummy and the dog on my lap, I promptly fell asleep for a nap.

I woke up in time for us to leave for the party. My cousin's son Cam was having his third birthday party today, and over we went. Somewhere previous I'm sure I mentioned that there was a big split in my family after my grandfather died 10 years ago. It was mom's brother(R) and sister(C), vs my mom's other brother(D). Mom stayed out of the stupid fighting and remained neutral, which meant we got invited to everything on both sides, but neither side apparently was interested in mending fences.

then, last year, my dad died, and that kinda opened some eyes up, cause everyone like my dad, Uncle Milt they all called him. his death, got things changed. Last Christmas, when R threw the Christmas party like he always did, he invited C and her family, and mom's family, but last year, he also invited D and his family. And more surprising, D and his family came.

Cam, the birthday boy, is D's grandson. And they were having the party at D's house. And D invited R and C and their families, again a surprise, and they all came, another surprise. It was great to see the whole family again within six months. Dad would have enjoyed seeing too. And ya know, I think, he has.

At any rate, we had a great time at the party. Cam was in rare form, laughing, talking, playing, just having a blast. Relatives were talking to each other. And there was a 5 year old, 7 year old and 9 year old there that needed entertaining as well.

Of course that fell to me.

I played 'Tag' with them, changing the rules at a whim. I generally helped the 5 year old when he was "It", cause he really couldn't catch the older two, and he needed the help. I also ended up wrestling around with a few of them, carrying one over my shoulder, and later, another under my arm. I'm tired from the whole thing now,and I'll be a bit achey tomorrow, but it was very fun, and very much worth it.

Cam all decked out in his "I AM 3" t-shirt, red pants and making chucks.

Cam eyeing up his cake, thinking about blowing out the candle and how to get his finger in the icing with no one catching him.

Cam playing with a toy train he got.

I also spent time talking to the adults, although the genereally isn't as much fun as playing with the kids. *SHRUG* what can I say, it's the truth, right? Also at the party was the in-laws family, and we all got along with them well too. I was talking to one girl, a cousin of a cousin, and we decided it's been over ten years since we saw each other. And while she didn't know many of the cousins on my side, she DID remember me. "I always remembered you as the clown, right?" Hey, I couldn't deny her. And if one has to be remembered, how bad is it to be remembered as "the clown"?

After the party, I came home, and put up this planter I got. I put it on the balcony and it's got some flowers in it. I'm gonna try to see if I can get it going. I mean, I generally have a black thumb killing any plant in my apartment, but this time I'm really gonna try. And it's not technically IN my apartment, but hanging on the balcony.

After that, Don called me. And he's coming up tomorrow late afternoon early evening. And it's been several weeks since we've seen each other, SO, if anyone sees the apartment building rocking, do NOT coming knocking. Just sayin....

POLT Listening to "14th Street" by Rufus Wainwright

Furniture shouldn't have a smell. - Ted, Queer Eye For The Straight Guy

Ways to break these iron bars, we dream of...

This past Friday night, I went to see Iron Man with A Local Celebrity, Mr. David Parispeking (even though his lovely wife is ready to expel another child at any moment), Ghostie, and Don (I think it's time Don got his own icon...after all, he has his own label, and since he's retired Air Force, this one just seemed to make the most sense).









So, about the movie...let me say that I am not a fan of Robert Downey Jr. Also, I am not a fan of Iron Man in the comics. Yeah, I always wanted to see him in the Avengers he belonged on the team, but I never really cared for the character itself.

Having said all that, what can I say about the movie? How about, if fucking blew me away! It is outSTANDing! Not only are the special effects are unbelievable (there were times when I didn't know if it was a computer, or if it was a man in the suit), but the plot actually makes sense. And the writing, the banter is genuine and funny. Gwenith Paltrow, as TOny Stark's sexy assistant is NOT just eye candy, as she could have been. I thought the ending was a bit shaky, but by and large, it is an incredibly good movie. Which did surprise me somewhat.

Afterwards, the four of us went to TGIFridays, for drinks and some food. And some friendly banter. And Don got along with my other two friends like they had known each other for years. I was quite pleased that everything went so well. Both my friends commented on how they liked Don, and Don told me he enjoyed them as well. A good omen, methinks.

POLT Listening to nothing

We just threw down with monkey's riding robots, how much weirder can it get? - Jason Todd, Countdown #39

I'm just a typical american boy, from a typical american town,

Typical. It is SO typical.

Freddie and I break up around Thanksgiving. For the next three months, I got nothing. Which really is okay, cause I've spent more of my life outside of a relationship than in one. Then I meet Don. Things are pretty good. I really like the guy. Of course there's complexity, involved his situation with Jim. But I'm willing to wait, because Don really is a great guy. But due to various reasons, Don and I haven't seen or talked to each other much in the last three week.

Then, last week, a guy I knew about 15-17 years ago and I ran into each other. We decide to get together in a few days to catch up. Back then, we had hooked up a few times, but were basically friends. And we haven't really spoken much over the last ten years. So we just want to catch up on our lives. I suggest a restaurant, or I can go to his place or he can come here. he says he'll come here. Wednesday evening he did. And we caught up. It was fun seeing what he's done with his life and telling him about mine. And, yes....wait for it...(like you don't already see where this is going), we hooked up again. Only this time, it wasn't just a hookup. It wasn't purely physical, I found myself feeling things for him. And he says he did too. And the further complication is that he's in a ten year relationship with this other guy. But he stills wants to pursue this with me despite the relationship. At least at this point. Although, it sounds like the relationship might be on its last legs anyway, I don't know.

And then tonight, Don calls me again. And so I'm kinda pulled back towards him. But it's not like I actually HAVE either one, ya know?

Typical. So fucking typical!

Why is it when I'm not involved with anyone, I couldn't PAY someone to date me, but when I meet some guy i really like, and would like to pursue, then suddenly guys are popping out of the woodwork! (okay, well one guy is not really 'guys popping out of the woodwork'...but that's a nice visual anyway...a man's gotta be able to dream, right?) And I really like Danny (the new guy) a lot too. *SIGH*

And typicalness point two: why can't I find an complicated relationship???? I mean, Don has Jim, and Danny has his guy? What the hell is up with this? Are there no single gay guys in this area? ......um, who would be interested in an old, fat, hairy, comic-book obsessed, somewhat immature and selfish single gay guy????

Ya know, I just re-read this and it sounds like something written in to Dear Abby by some indecisive little twenty-something co-ed who's having affairs with two older married guys. Which, except for her age, and sex and the fact gays can't be married, does kinda sound like my case.

But that's not the way it is. Not with me. Really, it isn't. I'm not indecisive, and I'm not innocent and naive and Don and Danny are not manipulating me. This is just all confusing.

ya know when I was younger, this wouldn't even BE an issue. I'd just fuck Don's brains out and then fuck Danny's brains out the next night, and then repeat the process until my penis fell off from overuse. Feelings? Emotions? Pfffft, who needed them????

Geez, could my life GET anymore like a soap opera? A gay soap opera? A not particularly interersting gay soap opera, granted, but still?

Look, yesterday and today at work sucked! They were physically tiring and extremely emotionally draining, so if I seem a bit....maudlin, or whiney, deal with it. It's how I feel now. I'm sure I'll be better soon....like on Monday, when I'm looking through my photos to post for Monday's Hot Shirtless Guy Photos. THAT always cheers me up.

POLT Listening to "Lemon" by U2

I had one letter from a vicar in England saying would I please not put a Christmas tree at Hogwarts as it was clearly a pagan society. Meanwhile, I'm having death threats when I'm on tour in America. - J.K.Rowling, on criticism of the Harry Potter books by Christians

Your private life drama, baby, leave me out...

Even though I asked people not to ask, because it's complicated, some people HAVE asked why Don and I went on a date with his friend Jim. I was going to post about this, I hadn't intended on doing it this soon, but eh, no time like the present right?

It seems I can't have a relationship without drama. We all know my last boyfriend was Freddie, twenty years younger than me, living about 10 hours away, and even when at college, still three hours away. not terribly condusive to perfecting a relationship, but very condusive to drama.

Don just lives about 45 minutes away and is only two years older than me (I think I might have said he was a year younger than me, but that was a mistake in my part). So those particular bits of drama aren't applicable here. But there is something else.

Don, well, Don has a partner, named Jim. Jim is twenty years older than Don, and has a serious heart condition, that his doctors have said gives him about 2 years to live, maybe more, maybe less. Jim and Don have been together 15 years, but Jim has told Don that, because of his heart, he knows he can no longer satisfy him sexually. And he wants Don to be happy when he's gone. So Jim has told him to find someone, someone he (Don) likes and Jim wants to meet this person, to make sure he's good enough for Don.

Don and I have been together serveral times. Jim's known about them all. And this movie/meal date thingee on Monday was for Jim and I to meet each other and get to know each other a bit. Frankly, I liked the guy, we had a stimulatingd conversation about politics over the meal. And even though I feared there would be, there were no awkward pauses or uncomfortable silences. And I assume he was pleased with me as well, because when we parted, he invited down to thier house, and I haven't heard anything negative about the day from Don.

*SIGH*....yeah, I know, I know. I'm kinda ambivalent about some of this myself. It is, I believe you'll agree, a strange situation. And it's the honest truth, cause kids, even I couldn't make this kinda stuff up.

I'm not really sure how this is all gonna play out, but what I do know is that I like Don A LOT. And I know that he feels the same. And right now, that's what matters. Don has said he's worried that I might not wait for him...two years, or more, is a long time. And he's right, it is. But right now, Don is who I want. And I'm willing to wait. I mean, we can still get together and have fun, and dates, and sex and stuff....without Jim.

It ain't perfect, I know. But Don's practially perfect for me. We fit. We match. At least so far. So I'm willing to hang on and see what develops further.

And besides, how could I NOT have some drama in my life????

POLT Listening to "Godzilla" by Blue Oyster Cult

"And would it kill you to wear pink, Lori?" "Probably." - Lori, Black Alice #1

Couldn't count on all my fingers, all the dates you had...

So I had a couple "kinda-sorta" dates this weekend.

Saturday evening, I went with my cousin, as her date, along with her sister and her sister's husband (follow all those relations?), to the alma mater of myself, and my the two girls, to see a comedian, Jeff Dunham.



They had seen him in person before and they said he was hilarious. I had seen him on TV before, and I recall chuckling, so when they asked me, I said sure. So, this satruday, we went to get supper and then made it to Shippensburg University. Now granted, I graduated there in 1991, but I hardly recognized the place. The building we were in was just opened in 2005, when I attended Ship, it was the tennis courts and a parking lot. And there were tons of other new buildings too. It looked...well, like a University, which it decidedly didn't when I was going there 17 years ago.

At any rate, the seat were just 11 rows back, so we saw everything clearly. And while I did laugh some, it was nowhere NEAR as much as those with me, or most of the audience did. Frankly, I found some of his jokes....well, not offensive really,but not funny. I really see no humor is mocking a "Prius" car by speaking about it in a 'gay' lisp, and then going on and on about how 'manly' his Hummer is and how he loves just driving over everything...including the "lisping" Prius. And isn't easy to go with the cheapest laugh about Muslim suicide bomber. Yeah, real high-brow humor there. Making fun of black people having really white teeth, and foreigners answering your customer service calls, and the Amish...gee, that took a lot of though to come up with those. Don't get me wrong, I did laugh at some parts of it, and I found others quite funny. but frankly, too much of his show just was not laughable. I was underimpressed.

But it was a night away from the apartment, with fun people, good food, and yeah, some laughs, so I'm not really complaining too much.
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Then, today, Don and I went to see a movie and then a meal with his friend Jim (don't ask...it's complicated). We saw the Superhero Movie and at the Olive Garden.


I wasn't even aware that this movie was even being made. It's a parody of the Spiderman movies, but it mocks the X-Men movies, and the Fantastic Four, and other in the manner of Airplane or the Naked Gun kind of thing. It even had Leslie Neilson as one of that stars. Drake Bell was the main character: Dragonfly. And he's real easy on the eyes, so that made the movie very watchable.

It also had Marion Ross (mom from Happy Days), Brent Spiner (Data from Star Trek), and a host of other actors I knew from other movies, but don't know thier names. And it had me laughing despite myself. I mean, how childish and stupid are "fart jokes"? But his movie had a doozy of one, and I just could not help but laugh at it. Again, not high brow humor, but this was funny.

We all had a good time too. Don and I held hands occasionally in the theater, and played a bit of footsie under the table at the meal. And before the movie started, I pointed out to Don that this was the first time he's seen me with pants on. And we both laughed at that.

So of either of my dates, I definitely prefered the second, even though there was no kissing. Don and I are both not big on public displays of affection....especially in Hagerstown MD. Maybe if we were in DC, or Toronto, or NYC, it might have been different. But there...at the Olive Garden, or movie theater, no...no kissing thank you. Maybe....no definitely next time.

POLT Listening to "Don't Call Me Baby" by Madison Avenue

That's my brain you just stabbed, damn you! - Arena #1

When we had a chest cold, how to stay proud...

Got an email from Don today. Apparently, he was sick with the flu all weekend as well. So, now we just need to figure out who gave it to whom Thursday night. He said he was feeling better Sunday. I was still feeling sickly today.

The place I work gives us Good Friday off. I have to work the Saturday after Good Friday, so I normally work Good Friday as well and then just take the holiday later. And that's what I did last week. But since I wasn't feel well this morning, I just took my Good Friday today and rested some more. Took pills, watched some TV, read some, slept some, drank orange juice. I'm feeling better tonight, although there's still a lot of phlegm I'm moving around in my chest. And my head's congested as well. but that's loads better than the fever and chills and aches i had over the weekend. And I've taking cold pills since Saturday and am now taking Mucinex as well. That'll kick it right outta my chest.

I'm pretty worn out and beat, even though I haven't really done ANYTHING since Saturday, and I haven't left the house but twice since Satruday afternoon. Well, whatever, I guess that's what I needed to get over this crap.

I'm just gonna say I picked it up at work and infected Don, not that he infected me. Then i can only get mad at myself and not him.

POLT Listening to some part of Swan Lake

And Black Canary said a buzzsaw arrow would be self-indulgent. - Green Arrow, Justice League Umlimited

Yeah afterwards i feel so good, afterwards...

Don stopped by again for a visit tonight. He didn't have much time, only about an hour and 15 minutes, but we made the best use of the time we had. Both of us have family stuff going on this weekend, so this was the only chance until next week, that's why he was here, even if only for a little bit. I also found out that he was married previously, for 6 years. To a WOMAN! That made me laugh. He laughed too. I wouldn't have ever guessed.

At any rate, this is you Uncle Polt, after Don left, contented, smiling, and sighing.


He let me take a photo of him as well, but he said he didn't want it anywhere on the Internet. So, I can't show you now. But let me work on him a bit, we'll see if I can change his mind.

And it was only when I looked at the photo just now that I realized he left his mark on me! On my right clavicale area! It's the slight discoloration below and to the left of my smile. *SIGH* At least he left it in an area that will be covered by my shirts at work.

POLT Listening to "Bittersweet Symphony" by The Verve Oil: 101.84 (-.74); gas: 3.28 (-)

The war on terror invovles Saddam Hussein because of the nature of Saddam Hussein, the history of Saddam Hussein, and his willingness to terrorize himself. - George W. Bush

Cause i'm already gone, and i'm feeling strong...

Yes, Don stopped by again today. And yes, it was as good as I thought it would be. Lots of talking, and kissing and cuddling and laughing and joking and getting to know one another and just having fun being there. And at point during the three hours we spent in bed, while we were talking, he said something to me that almost made me cry (and no I'm not gonna say what, even Uncle Polt doesn't kiss and tell everything!) I got it bad. can't wait to see him again. And I wonder if this smile will be permanently plastered on my face.

I gotta be honest with ya, and I told him this too, I'm a bit scared by all this, how strongly I feel for him. I have never in all the people I've dated, felt this strongly for anyone this quickly. But I'm liking the feeling, and just rolling with it for now.

POLT Listening to "Flounders Mashups" on DC101 Online

A woman in Brazil has given birth to a giant baby, all 17 pounds of him. The woman will talk to the press just as soon as she puts her vagina back together. - Tina Fey, Weekend Update, SNL